It has been suggested that the candle epitomizes masculine power (candle) and feminine passion (flame), the one being useless without the other.

In a woman’s dream, therefore, extinguishing a candle might suggest control of a perceived power, whereas in a man’s dream it will suggest control of external factors. You might like to consult the entries for fire, light and wax as well as the information on phallus in sex / sexual images.